Don’t blame anyone or anything for your situation or problems. When you do that, you are saying that you are powerless over your own life – which is utter crap. An empowering step to reclaiming your life is taking responsibility.
I can’t agree more but I don’t see the cause of people blaming things on the fact that they just don’t want to take responsibility. If you feel powerless for instance, someone might tell you that you are not powerless, which is the truth. If it’s Gillian and you respect her, you might take this truth on board and push through the converse feeling – start going to the gym, get stronger, get tougher etc. eventually you’re amazed that you can do all these things you previously you couldn’t do and for a period you start feeling that you can do other things too that you couldn’t ever see yourself doing. So you go attempt those things which are harder… Then you hit the wall. So you go back, tell yourself you can do it, you’ve done it before so you can do it again.… and you can but then the wall comes up again. Then you push through, then there’s another wall and another etc. etc.
You might stop there. That’s it you say… stagnation occurs.
But even worse than that is the feeling of being powerless, you now know has crept up from under your carpet. You’ve been sweeping it under there all along and in a sense because you’ve ignored it, it’s grown to a bigger beast… and it’s now shaking you, screaming at you – “there’s nothing you can do now to ignore me anymore!” And well the beast is right because the beast is your personal truth, the one that’s out of harmony with the real truth – that you are powerful, capable, amazing and can do whatever you desire. Stagnation is not our birthright. That’s also the way God sees you. Truth with a capital T.
They call this the Law of Attraction. We attract things that reflect our true emotions, the more we ignore these things, the more severe the attraction is needed to show us who we really are. Deep down, the emotion was always there – eventually we may choose to feel / experience it fully and remove it.
So if we go back to the original statement and we segment the process of blame, we can see there is something else at work than the idea that people are just afraid of taking responsibility.
Blame has two options.
1. Blame other people or things
2. Blame myself
Both deny my own ability to change myself by myself.
But ignoring that I feel unable denies why I feel this way in the first place.
And, when I deny the cause I am only able to now justify one action in response to the effect – blame.
1. Blame other people or things for the effects
2. Blame myself for the effects
So while blame denies self-responsibility, it exists not because we are afraid of being responsible (the preferable belief – the one that was drummed into us), but because we don’t want to emotionally face the cause. That happens not by ignoring the feeling but experiencing the feeling… the emotional cause. In my experience, not having a lot of faith in myself that I can experience some deep emotions and make it through, having faith that my Creator is there during the process with me… allows me to take that step.