Love is a gift we can give to others, in fact the highest gift but has our gift of love was rejected early on, afraid we will never have our love reciprocated, we seek substitutes. Precisely because our substitutes are not what we truly seek, we will never be satisfied by them, in fact the continual dissatisfaction will impel us to increase the volume and scope of substitutes to the point that nothing remains that even closely meets our substitution needs as before resulting in an eventual emotional breakdown. At this point there are often two options remaining. One is a complete emotional shut down – more than likely associated with a physical shut down in the form of a serious and chronic illness. The second is to feel the root causes of our emotional pain and by doing so release the emotional cause and begin the process of permanent healing from the ground (cause) upwards.